Wednesday, March 18, 2009

Let's Share

Ethan Ridenbaugh
English 109.02
Professor Boczkowski
16 March, 2009

Let’s Share

Over that last couple of months it was an assignment of my 109.02 English class to keep a well updated blog through out the quarter. When starting the assignment, I have to admit that I was a little skeptical. I was really unsure of what the idea was behind writing a blog and sharing our thoughts with both our classmates and the rest of the world. Not only were we sharing about ourselves, but only one specific topic, which only makes things more difficult. In the end, I’d like to say I have a grasp of why my professor chose this exercise. And why I now enjoy this brand new experience called blogging.

Like I said, I was kind of skeptical about this assignment; my friends were also skeptical when I explained the assignment to them. I knew that I had to go into this with an open mind and trust my professor with what he was trying to show us. Seeing as how last quarter we learned from creating our own secret identity on, I had to trust that in the end there would be reasoning for what we are doing. The topic I chose for the blog assignment was Post Secret.

Post Secret has been a “habit” of mine for about five years now. It was created as a community art project where people all around the world send in their dearest secrets on home made post cards. What I soon discovered coming into the assignment was that this is going to be a hard topic to keep both interest and momentum. Therefore, I turned it more into a weekly update of my thoughts and ideas of weekly post posted on the Post Secret website. I began to think, “great, how am I suppose to learn anything when my topic is so bold and narrow?!” What I come to realize, it is from this aspect that I learn my first lesson of the blogosphere.

One week, I was faced with the question of posting a questionable post secret then stating my thoughts, opinions, and experience on the secret. The secret read “I don’t want to admit I’m gay, because I still dream of becoming president.” (Posting Back: I Don’t Even Know What Week) This secret really hit home for me, seeing as how I am gay. Being gay, I face the constant worry of what people think about me and how their thoughts of me would change if they know that I’m gay. So after much deliberation, I decided to share this part of me not only with my class, but the world. And its from this, I can show how it is easier for people to be more true to themselves and share their thoughts because things are more comfortable when written. Have you ever wanted to tell someone something, but feel it would be easier if you wrote it out instead of saying it? I know it is for me. In fact, that’s how I came out to my mother. After sobbing for an hour, too afraid to say it, I was asked to write it down on a slip of paper; and it was easier. From this, Post Secret and blogging hit common ground. It is shown that it is easier to open up and share things when they are written.

This is why I believe people both read and write blogs. To share what they can’t share with anyone else on a comfortable level. Everyone wants to share their ideas; it’s what gives us a sense of purpose. It also, like Post Secret, gives a sense of not being alone; seeing as how we can find others writing about the same things we ourselves are.

I believe that I have learned a great deal from this blogging experiment. It was also really interesting getting to know my fellow classmates. Since we were commenting and sharing with each other on our blogs, we were able to see each others insight on all kinds of topics and really get to know each other. Everyone is capable to share their thoughts and are more comfortable doing so. Blogging truly is a great experience.

Work Citied:
Posing Back: I Don’t Even Know What Week. 13 February 2009. Ethan Ridenbaugh

Friday, March 13, 2009

Thee Final Week of Post Secret Blogging

This is thee final post about post secret. And with that how about we get started.

First off.

As someone who works as a cashier at the local Target in Heath, I just have to share my experience with people who bring in "green bags". When i begin scanning those items the customer on most occurances seem too have an almost smug way of saying "oh, i have a bag." And why this might seem like a bag thing for someone to act this way, I'm so for it. I think its great that people bring bags in as a way to help our enviornment. And in aspect they are right to be smug and superior when they are doing such a great thing to help our enviornment.

This one made me laugh. I live with two of my best friends who happen to be female. When you live with someone, they're eventually going to see you in your underwear and you become comfortable being around them in your underwear, at least thats how it is for me. From this, I have noticed that girls seem to be more judgemental of the underwear a guy wears. I now know the pairs that are more "attractive" to those who are a little more on the "relaxable" side. haha

Monday, March 9, 2009

First of All Let Me Say Damn

First of all let me say DAMN! I can’t believe somebody would do this to her she was so hot. But that is an exclusive picture who ever posted this has got serious BALLS… the cops are pissed they did not want this getting out. My question is did Chris brown really do it and why? That’s what I want to know. I heard it was because she gave him herpes, then I heard it was because she was beating his ass, and he got fed up with it and started whoppin her ass back; but you still don’t do this back to a girl. I guess the only TMZ that was on his mind was… Totally Mash Zat ass LMAO j/p.

Friday, February 27, 2009


This weeks postsecrets were good as always. You need to make sure to stop by and check them all out at

I think being clumsy is a great attribute. It can sometimes be a trait, or part of someones personality. I think being clumsy and people being clumsy makes things fun and more interesting.

This next post made me laugh out loud, literally. My roommates are constantly joking that their going to leave the bathroom door unlocked so we can join in on a "hot" shower. When I saw this post I was like damn! My roommates also had a good laugh at this post and how it relates to our story.

This last one I think everyone can relate to. When we were little everyone said "enjoy it while you can. Don'tbe in a hurry to grow up. Things only ge harder the older you get." I thought they were all crazy, but they were all right! Life only gets more hectic and stressful with all these added responsibilities. Just thought it was ironic i guess.
Thanks for reading!

Friday, February 20, 2009

College, Off Topic

This week we had to write a response about someone elses blog. I chose to write about Havens, being on my own, and the college lifestyle. I relate to Haven in the way that were in college and we are having a blast! In high school, things were very boring and not exciting at all. Now I can finally be myself and have fun! Living on my own is great, I get to go out when i want, be home when i want, and eat icecream everyday of the week(lol i did that anyways.) I go to partys and I make new friends. I'm finally out of hicktown Ohio and ready to be the real me and just have fun. I'm loveing the college lifestyle, it is the most fun I've had my entire life. And I can't help but look forward to years to come of the college life!

Friday, February 13, 2009

Posting Back: I Don't Even Know What Week.

This weeks Post Secrets didn't stand out to me except for one. And since Prof. wants me to try and write about only one Post Secret and how it pertains to me, this ones it. I have to say that I was a little skeptical to share this with the class on the way that I'll be treated. And thats kind of what this Post Secret talks about.

I'm unsure if my readers know, but I am gay. Everyday day I ponder on the way I would be treated on the basis of people knowing who I really am. People I interact with in classes I am unsure if they know my orientation and if they do, does it bother them? I also always wonder if being gay will hold me back in the things I want to accomplish in my life. I mean I don't want to be president, but I do want to be successful. And thats what the post secret is about. Its a scary thought waking up everyday and not knowing how you might be treated that day. It really is a form of segregation. I don't put it out there for everyone to see and I act just like everyone else, but if they knew, would things be different? Maybe these thoughts of segregation bother me so much because of my background. I came from a very conservative and traditional community. And i know how the people in that community though of it, it just bothers me.

After thinking about it for quite sometime I decided to post this secret. I figured it doesn't in the end matter what anyone knows or thinks about me. If they still like me and want to be friends then thats great, and if they don't, then thats too bad. I hope that one day I can feel like the person I love doesn't make a difference on the person I am.

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Friday, February 6, 2009

This quarter we are to write blogs about something happening in our lives. I will be doing a weekly blog post on my ideas and opinions of I was unsure of what I was going to talk about seeing as how I doubt I’m much different than anyone else. But Post Secret is something that I have been involved with for many years and it is a topic I feel comfortable and knowledgeable in. Post Secret is an on going experiment that has a recent update weekly. It involves people all over the world sending their deepest, most horrific, hilarious, and invoking secrets on postcards. It started out as a public art project and has grown into a world renowned interest. Each postcard is crafted with its creator’s art and secrets.

I have been a post secret follower from the beginning, before Frank published five books and traveled across country in art Museums and exhibits. My Cousin Hannah is an avid supporter of Post Secret and who influenced my interest in Post Secret. She also visited one of the exhibits that displayed some of the most explicit and enlightening secrets in the world. He talks about how the project began, post secrets that have touched him personally, and what post secret really means. She also spoke to me about how it feels like you’re surrounded by the kindest and accepting people possible; it must be true because even the coarsest people will have to be letting go and opening the hearts and minds to these post secrets.

I often save many of the post secrets that are posted on the site to my computer, in case I ever need to look back for comfort or just for a laugh. I have bought all four of the Post Secret books. I love owning these books because it is so much fun to get to share them with others. Reading along with someone or a group of people and opening up ourselves to agree with a secret or to laugh along to one opens up a relationship in a personal level. On one occasion, after I had just bought the second book, I started to read it with my best friend Megan. I remember us sitting on my bedroom floor with a bowl of popcorn anticipating the book just as most people do with a movie. We sat down together and started to read. We came to one post secret saying, “I ate the blue berries, and they were delicious.” After seeing this we couldn’t help but laugh. We started talking about a moment in time where I stole all the cookies that were sent over with her mom and over indulged myself in them with out sharing a single one with anyone else. We also came to post secrets involving abuse, broken hearts, and losing family members to cancer. These post secrets over whelmed us. When we read Post Secrets such as those I can feel a drop or lack of air in my chest, an unfamiliar numbness through my body. It makes me feel alive, more human. We continued reading and shared stories to one another about how the post secrets relate to us in our lives. I learned more about Megan that day and we truly opened our hearts up to one another. Megan said that “it gave her a reason to be emotional.” What I think she meant by this was that everyone needs a good way of letting their emotions flow. Some people listen to music that fits their mood, while others punch a pillow. In away Post Secret was our very own counselor in a book, allowed us to open up and talk to our dearest friends. It has been three years since this occurred but we still share the greatest bond as best friends that I have ever known with anyone. The post secret experience is truly amazing.

I choose to do this based on the fact that Post Secret is something that I believe can help a person. It always has given me the idea that there is someone out there that you can always relate too. You are never alone. And something about hearing people’s secrets makes me feel personable. And I think that it would be something people could show an interest in. So every week I will be sharing my ideas on the secrets posted for that week. Post Secrets that I think stand out the most and are my favorite of the group, along with ones that I feel like I can relate too or just find humoring.